Conflict Resolution

One of our high school students said it well: “BCS teaches us to be Christlike, it teaches us to be different!”

Conflict is not avoidable. But conflict should result in reconciliation.

Assume good intent. If we view one another as God’s children, then I believe it is important that we assume actions by another was not made with malicious or evil intent. Sometimes undesired actions occur because of immaturity, stress, fear, anger or simply an error in judgement. The first step to reconciliation is considering someone’s actions as good intent.

Truly listen to the other person. Whether we are the person who has the complaint or the person accused, both need to listen to each other. Neither has all the information available. When we listen we learn all the information. We see the other’s perspective. It may be not what we first thought. To reconcile as God instructs, we must be willing to listen with an open heart.

Desire reconciliation. As a Christian body, we should desire reconciliation. Reconciliation includes assuming good intent from the other person, truly listening to the other person, and asking God into the conversation. He will faithfully guide our conversations if we ask Him.

Try again. There are times when reconciliation takes more than one conversation. If you still do not feel reconciled, explain in a respectful manner the way you are feeling again. Do not assume the other person knows how you feel.

I ask God to remind us of His promises and reconcile anyone within our school experiencing conflict.

2 Corinthians 13:11 (NASB) Finally, brethren, rejoice, be made complete, be comforted, be like-minded, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you.

Diann Floth, Head of School